Was he passionate?

It has been long going conversation with the men in my family, to understand the competitiveness of sports on any arena. In sports handicap can be an added advantage or disadvantage. This movie was like watching demolition derby and rugby
A statement was made during the movie paraphrased, the way Zupan was before the accident didn’t change after the accident if anything it got worst. How should we view the handicap, just as we view anything else or anyone else we encounter in our everyday life. We all have handicaps no one is perfect. It can be a hindrance or realization.

There was a feeling of empathy watching the film, not only for the handicap but for the handicap’s family.
It is difficult to imagine how it would feel to wake up one day get out of bed, live your life as you always have, and the next day not being able to move. There was a conversation years ago with a person that had lost their mother. A statement was made “I understand how you feel; before the statement was complete the person who had lost their mother says “it is impossible for you to understand unless you have lost your mother”.

Watching the movie was very emotional and hard to understand why a person who sustain an injury risk making that injury worst. I wonder if there was a passion for life or a death wish. I wonder if there are stages as with anything in our lives that a person goes through after this type of accident. The movie reminds me of watching the composition of a war, personal revenge, recruitment for more men, then the final feeling of success or failure. I wonder if this is what competitive sports is really all about.

pornography

Years ago, in my early 20’s I remember seeing a picture, it was big as life. It was a picture of a Black Man with an afro, slim muscular body naked holding a Black woman. He had her back against his front and he had his head bowed touching her neck his arms draped down the front of her body and his hands folded like an x. She stood in front of him legs crossed her head tilted to the left allowing him to touch her neck. Her arms draped in front of her body holding her stomach.

This is a picture I saw over 25 years ago, but the image still remains clear in my mind. I remember the arousal but I also remember thinking women aren’t supposed to feel this way. I remember trying to suppress that image pretending I didn’t see the picture or acting like it didn’t affect me. Pornography is sexually explicit material intended to cause sexual arousal. How did this become dirt on sex?

When a child watch a show they pick a character and will say I’m who ever. They imagine themselves doing what the character is doing. If it is phenomenal they will take the act away from the television or movie and make it a part of their dreams or play. It is from this we imagine ourselves doing things accomplishing great feats of accomplishment. We look at a magazine and picture our homes looking like the rooms in the picture. We decide from the picture in the magazine that this is the way I want to dress or resemble. It is also from this we are aroused, we see ourselves as the woman or the man in the picture or film and emulate what they are doing. Something we have done since we were children. What makes it wrong is how far the imagination will go. You can argue that everyone is entitled to their opinions and likes. But it turns out some of it is illegal.

I don’t know how a person is taught that sex is scary, or dirty. As a child we eventually learn what reality is and what fantasy is. We eventually learn what we see on T.V. Or movies aren’t to be done at home. In two hours a person can not fall in love get married have children then get a divorce. We eventually learn that women are not waiting naked in only a robe for the delivery guy to deliver that pizza she really doesn’t want. But it still arouses us to believe for just two hours this can happen.

The problem with pornography it no longer stimulates the mind to imagine or to build from what is seen. There is nothing to imagine you are there. I will admit this is still a physical stimulus, for some people they can’t just see the head roll on the ground to know it was cut off. They have to see the head cut off, blood vessels cut and blood streaming out of the neck to believe the head was decapitated.

This is where society is going. The legal restrictions on porn should be tighter, it is very easy to view porn on the internet if you want to or not. There is no such thing as tasteful porn which is too bad. The perversion of the mind has caused porn to put dirt on sex.