Years ago, in my early 20’s I remember seeing a picture, it was big as life. It was a picture of a Black Man with an afro, slim muscular body naked holding a Black woman. He had her back against his front and he had his head bowed touching her neck his arms draped down the front of her body and his hands folded like an x. She stood in front of him legs crossed her head tilted to the left allowing him to touch her neck. Her arms draped in front of her body holding her stomach.
This is a picture I saw over 25 years ago, but the image still remains clear in my mind. I remember the arousal but I also remember thinking women aren’t supposed to feel this way. I remember trying to suppress that image pretending I didn’t see the picture or acting like it didn’t affect me. Pornography is sexually explicit material intended to cause sexual arousal. How did this become dirt on sex?
When a child watch a show they pick a character and will say I’m who ever. They imagine themselves doing what the character is doing. If it is phenomenal they will take the act away from the television or movie and make it a part of their dreams or play. It is from this we imagine ourselves doing things accomplishing great feats of accomplishment. We look at a magazine and picture our homes looking like the rooms in the picture. We decide from the picture in the magazine that this is the way I want to dress or resemble. It is also from this we are aroused, we see ourselves as the woman or the man in the picture or film and emulate what they are doing. Something we have done since we were children. What makes it wrong is how far the imagination will go. You can argue that everyone is entitled to their opinions and likes. But it turns out some of it is illegal.
I don’t know how a person is taught that sex is scary, or dirty. As a child we eventually learn what reality is and what fantasy is. We eventually learn what we see on T.V. Or movies aren’t to be done at home. In two hours a person can not fall in love get married have children then get a divorce. We eventually learn that women are not waiting naked in only a robe for the delivery guy to deliver that pizza she really doesn’t want. But it still arouses us to believe for just two hours this can happen.
The problem with pornography it no longer stimulates the mind to imagine or to build from what is seen. There is nothing to imagine you are there. I will admit this is still a physical stimulus, for some people they can’t just see the head roll on the ground to know it was cut off. They have to see the head cut off, blood vessels cut and blood streaming out of the neck to believe the head was decapitated.
This is where society is going. The legal restrictions on porn should be tighter, it is very easy to view porn on the internet if you want to or not. There is no such thing as tasteful porn which is too bad. The perversion of the mind has caused porn to put dirt on sex.
3 comments:
Pornography has become so common there is little left to the imagination. With children being exposed to porn so very early by the time they reach adulthood, there is no excitement or curiosity. I totally agree with your views.
After reading your post I find myself asking how much of my dreams came from the images I've seen. If my life were a play, how much would pornography be in the background, setting the relavent scenes? Its true that human nature always wants more in some way. I think often the easiest is to show the head being sawed off with blood spewing. Of course, this gets distasteful as well. I believe we share the view that sex is not, "scary, or dirty." I have desires and emotions. I believe its part of being human. I don't want to be ashamed of saying I have desires, or expressing my desires in an appropriate manner at an appropriate time. I feel I have a right to express myself and depict my emotions in their varoius subtleties. I refuse to keep my feelings bottled up, or accept any negative label or admission of wrong doing. If you can't tell, I found your post very thought provoking. I'm not sure if I agree that pornagraphic restrictions should be tightened. In some senses I would definately agree, in others I would bitterly oppose. It just depends on what tightening restrictions meant. Thanks for giving a good honest post on a controversial subject. I know I would have thought twice before I posted on it, as I have scratched my head a number of times while making this comment.
Good job! I liked the way you were up front and honest in your writing. It's amazing what children see and interpret what in their mind can either be fantasy or reality. As adults what we've precluded in our mind from childhood is recycled to reality and our perceptions change.
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